One of the interesting things about the pickup artist community, also known as the seduction community, on the Internet, is the way that over the years, the number of products on offer and their stated success rate has mushroomed, nay, sky-rocketed!
It all began with the pickup artist known as Mystery, who, from his roots as a stage magician, used tricks and techniques that could broadly be described as misdirection and psychological diversion to engage the attention of women, and hook their interest, in such a way that an opening gambit and subsequent conversation was enabled.
He later claimed that his techniques could allow you to use psychological tricks on women that would cause them (my words) to fall into your bed at the drop of a hat.
Now there’s no doubt that we’re all susceptible to certain levels of manipulation and psychological techniques — you have to think of the con-merchant and con-artist who has thrived through the generations understand how true that is!
So misdirection and psychological trickery can bring about some desired outcomes, and I would imagine that those could also include seducing a woman and grabbing her attention for long enough to start a conversation. Whether or not that would extend to getting her into bed, and establishing a relationship is another matter.
However, the basic premise of the pickup artist / seduction community techniques is that this is exactly what you can do. If you know enough about feminine psychology, or perhaps it would be more accurate to say “if you know enough about the gamut of tricks tips and techniques designed to seduce women” that they sell you, then you are, supposedly, almost guaranteed success in having a woman in your bed every night if that’s what you want.
One of the programs however that does seem to be based on a slightly stronger foundation of popular psychology is the Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer, and I recommend this program for several reasons. Click for more information. First of all it’s much less disrespectful to women than some of the others. Second, it’s not being marketed as though it was a “secret technique” that only men in a “secret PUA society” could be allowed to learn.
It’s marketed honestly and openly and indeed is the biggest selling program on Clickbank at the time of writing. Now, I know none of that means that it’s actually any use in terms of picking up your futurelifelong partner, or even in terms of seducing a woman so that you can enjoy sex with a one night stand.
What I am saying is this: of all the programs I’ve seen and read about, and debated with my colleagues, the Tao Of BAdass appears to be the one that has most going for it — in other words, it appears to the one most plausibly based upon genuine psychology rather than pop-psychology, NLP and hypnosis.
There’s something really rather amusingly naive about the impression that some of these pickup artists give: that is to say, by using a few simple words and tricks and techniques, you can shift a woman’s emotional state into one where she’s going to be susceptible to seduction. I’d rather have more respect for women than that, and my opinions are borne out by the commentaries on the Internet – in particular this one.
Indeed there is a vast amount of information on the Internet which seems to suggest that this is true. If you look up Neil Strauss and his website, you can see just exactly how proliferation of Internet pickup artists has developed over the years. Strauss was one of the original students of Mystery, describing himself as a self-confessed geek or nerd before he took the pick up artist training with Mystery, and emerging as what I would broadly describe as a “lifestyle coach”.
Several years later, whether or not you believe these techniques work probably depends on how intent you are on actually achieving your objective.
For one thing, over the years there have been many different schools of goal setting which have allowed men and women to achieve their objectives without any of the techniques referred to in programs like Mystery Method or Strauss’s StyleLife program.
In other words, what I’m saying is that the intention to achieve an objective (any objective, be it picking up a woman or whatever), combined with a very simple process of visualization of the desired outcome, does seem to have many compelling and powerful effects on our behavior and achievements.
It might therefore be that the pickup artist techniques have no greater power than those which we find in self-improvement programs worldwide, programs which have existed for a long time before the advent of the pickup artists. (Think of Napoleon Hill and “Think and Grow Rich”.)
None of this is necessarily to criticize these programs, because clearly anything that allows a lonely and inadequate man to find a relationship is going to be a good thing.
But I’m reminded of what Neil Strauss said in his book “The Game: penetrating the secret world of pickup artists”, about how he observed that many of the so-called pickup artists preferred to sit around discussing techniques with each other rather than going out and having a real relationship with a woman!
Certainly one of the impressions that you couldn’t fail to take away with you if you read this material is how much these techniques seem to be about seduction and sex rather than establishing a real relationship. Strauss is clearly not an ordinary man, and he ended up with a relationship using these techniques, but my guess is that he would have done that anyway: the fact he was in a long-term relationship after meeting Mr Mystery probably has nothing to do with the PUA techniques, but all to do with Neal Strauss’s determination to change his personality and behavior.
And having said all that, you might judge, correctly, that I’m rather critical of what I see as the content of some of these programs. For example, they can appear to be quite misogynistic, if not actually downright demeaning to women. You’ll hear terms like “bitch shield”, “negging”, and others, all of which are not complimentary or respectful to women, but start from the presumption that they are somehow psychologically inferior to men, even if only by virtue of the fact that they will be taken in by these techniques. if you must buy one, buy The Tao of Badass.