Stop Premature Ejaculation

If you’re a man who’s struggling against premature ejaculation, and it seems to be completely uncontrollable, then I have some fantastic news for you.

Over the years, my work as a counselor has given me the chance to really understand how men can get over premature ejaculation. It’s also given me the opportunity to ask my male clients to try out various cures for premature ejaculation, so I know exactly what works.

The One That Works!

superchargingejaculatorycontrol225Ejaculation By Command By Lloyd Lester. 

Why’s it so good? Apart from the fact that it works? Well, first things first.

All of the techniques in this program are the ones that sex therapists use to cure premature ejaculation in their clients.

So Ejaculation By Command is based on really solid principles, with techniques and treatment methods used by professionals. (More about this later.)

And it’s written in a practical and down-to-earth style, by a man I know personally, who has made it his mission to help men with their ejaculatory problems.

Before I describe what’s in it, have a look at this video. Written and produced by a woman, it’s an amusing summary of some pointers about how you might cure premature ejaculation. But you need more. Read on when you’ve seen the video. Don’t be diverted!

So let’s look at what’s in Ejaculation by Command, and why it works so well.

There are two great things about this program:

First, you get 15 “Emergency Tactics” to help you last longer in bed tonight.

You also get a comprehensive eBook on controlling ejaculation quickly and permanently.

The Good News continues! There are also lots of bonuses, including info and videos on female orgasm secrets, female G spot stimulation, how to have the best sex possible…. and many more. They are great bonuses, and they’ll really help you have great sex.

But what I want to talk about here is the basic eBook which shows you everything you ever wanted to know about ejaculation control.

It’s a pretty chunky eBook too, running into 135 pages. Fortunately you get a quick start guide which makes it all very easy. What’s great is that Ejaculation By Command isn’t just about giving you the ability to last longer in bed — it’s also about ways in which you can give your partner complete satisfaction (which means, of course, giving her an orgasm when you’re in bed with her).

So how is all this done?

 superchargingejaculatorycontrol225Click here now if you want to find out right now, or read on for more information.

The author, Lloyd Lester, takes several techniques, and blends them into a single approach to curing premature ejaculation.

His solution shows you how to use the muscles in your pelvic area, including your PC muscle, your pubococcygeus muscle, to slow down your arousal.

He describes how to use breathing techniques to massively slow down your ejaculation by spreading your sexual energy around your whole body. (So you may well experience a whole body orgasm!)

More importantly he shows you five fantastic techniques that will change your mental attitude to sex, so you’re completely confident about your ability to control ejaculation.

Which means you’ll have a true sense of your own masculinity and male power in bed.

Because, when you think about it, one of the biggest problems for men with premature ejaculation – and this might include you – is that they don’t believe they have the power to control their ejaculation. They don’t believe they’re good lovers. They don’t believe they’re sexually impressive to women.

So it’s important to have a true sense of your own power here. And nowhere will you get a stronger sense of your own power than when you use the law of attraction to manifest a desired outcome in your life. This is the use of mind power refined to its highest level. You can get some specific information on how to use law of attraction principles to cure emotional conditions like premature ejaculation here.

The real truth is, everything you have to make you a great lover is within you now. Simply by changing your mental attitude and your beliefs about yourself, you can embody a very different reality, both in and out of bed.

This information is dynamite! It can blow your lack of confidence out of the water and replace it with supreme self-confidence and total self-assurance with women, both in bed and out of it.

 

 

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How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

But can you really make a man fall in love with you?

Of course it’s a complete misnomer – “how to make a man fall in love with you”! The reality is, as you already know, that you can’t actually make anybody fall in love with you. After all, how could you get control of somebody’s mind and change their viewpoint of something as subtle and complicated as love?

man woman in love

How can you tell if a man is in love with you or just likes you?

But of course there are hundreds if not thousands of websites out on the Internet all designed to offer information on how to make a man love you or how to make a man fall in love with you.

So why is it that I say you can’t make anybody fall in love with you?

Surely, the presence of so many Internet sites is a strong indication that actually there must be something to the techniques which these websites claim will give you instant adoration and love?

I don’t know, because I haven’t read any of them, but what I do know is that you can’t expect to be able to influence somebody’s feelings in an area as tender and precious to the human psyche as love.

Difference between liking and loving

This is a state of love – we’d all recognize that. So what is liking?

Of course what you can do is to influence how someone feels about you by behaving in different ways.

So, if you were to engage in behavior which helped somebody to see that you were very nice and friendly, they might well begin to like you.

In fact, there are plenty of things you can do which really will make somebody like you. And as you may well already know, liking is a very sound basis for growing your relationship into love naturally!

So you might think that this is simply playing with words. You may think that when people talk about techniques to make a man love you, and I say that there aren’t any such techniques, but there are plenty of techniques which can make a man like you, I am splitting hairs. 

man and woman in bed

Liking or loving – you decide!

But I do believe that’s true – liking and loving really are two separate emotions.

To like somebody means to feel appreciation or affection or sense of warmth towards them. To love somebody means to have a relationship with them whereby they are really precious to you, and what happens to them really matters to you.

You might be wondering whether or not loving someone is just a more intense version of liking, whether it’s simply liking “magnified”? When you look at definitions of liking and loving, you can see that the difference clearly centres on certain qualities.

Zick Rubin, one of the first social psychologists who studied love seriously, developed what he called liking and loving scales.

So in Rubin’s point of view, we appreciate people when we like them: we like their company, we like their point of view, we like to spend time with them.

Rubin distinguished this level of liking from love by suggesting that love is a much deeper emotion.

couple in love

A couple in love – romantic love is expressed physically through sex.

Now what does this mean? One thing that it means is the connection includes a desire for physical contact and intimacy, and perhaps also caring about another person’s needs as though they were your own.

Rubin talked about levels of romantic love – I think he mentioned five levels of romantic love, from affection through to infatuation and passion.

Of course it’s inevitable that in a field so intensely related to human interaction, many social psychologists have tried to define love and liking, but unfortunately they’ve done it in different ways.

For example, social psychologist Elaine Hatfield made a distinction between only two types of love which she called companionate love and passionate love.

Companionate love, she said, was based more on mutual respect, caring and affection whereas passionate love was something more intense and sexually based.

Needless to say, as you might’ve observed in your own relationships, passionate love can turn into companionate love as time goes by.

couple loving each other in bed

Looks like companionate love is at work here!

But these are really grey areas, with unspecific definitions and to be honest, somewhat unhelpful if you’re trying to decide whether you love or like somebody. Even more unhelpful if you are trying to make a man love you! Click here for more information on this.

It could be that as it can Rubin’s definition of love is more helpful than it might appear at first sight, because he spoke of romantic love quite specifically.

He said that it was based on three elements:

  • Attachment, which is the need to be cared for and to be with the other person.
  • Caring, which is about valuing the other person’s happiness as much as your own.
  • And finally, intimacy, which is about sharing your most intimate and private thoughts with the other person.

He also investigated how it might be possible to identify how much somebody was feeling romantic love.

Certain behaviors seem to be key here. For example, one of the things that he found was that if people are deeply in love they spend a lot more time gazing into each other’s eyes.

When people are not so deeply in love, or only a little bit in love –  well, they do not spend so much time looking into each other’s eyes. (And indeed this is one way in which you may be able to induce a feeling of greater liking in a man who you wish to have love you: look deeply into his eyes, a lot! Find out more about this here.)

man and woman in bed

Romantic love will always turn sexual if allowed the opportunity for expression.

While there are behavioral characteristics like this which can help us identify liking and loving, the real problem is that love is an ephemeral concept, both emotionally and intellectually.

It’s therefore difficult to define, and even more difficult to measure.

Yet the interesting thing is that we all know when we are in love with somebody! So perhaps, at the end of the day, it’s better to leave love as a felt experience rather than see it as something to be scientifically deconstructed.

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How To Get Back With An Ex

Why is the Internet full of

Advice on how to get back together with your ex-partner?

Because loads of people make a mistake when they break up – and then they find they don’t know how much they love somebody, and they want to get back together with them pretty quickly when the realization of the magnitude of the mistake they’ve made comes upon them.

Well, fair enough, but the question becomes, how do you persuade somebody with whom you broke up unnecessarily that you are the ideal couple and should be staying together for life?

Not an easy proposition, you might say, and you would be right. So let’s see if we can find some steps which might help you get back together with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend.

If the reason you broke up was because you were having mediocre sex – and, guys I’m thinking of you here – then you need to do something about it. Premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction – each and every one of them can be very disruptive to a relationship, can turn a woman right off you, and make her go elsewhere simply because she can get better sex with another man.

man and woman making love

Are you performing adequately in bed?

Consider the statistics about the length of intercourse: men usually come after four minutes of intercourse, and women, well, what do they want?

Women say that the “ideal” length of intercourse is between 10 and 13 minutes.

Just wonder for a moment whether or not your view of your sexual performance is matched in any way shape or form by your partner’s view of it.

Sorry – your ex partner’s possible view of your sexual performance. And then consider whether or not there is urgent remedial action to be taken on your part to become a better lover.

Naturally, getting greater stamina in bed, or powering up your endurance, isn’t the only thing you need to do to improve your masculinity.

You need to become a sensitive caring man who can relate to women in a way that they like, if not love and understand.

Women’s ability to connect is all about feelings, whereas men tend to be much more about action – a vague generality, but worth mentioning as a reminder to you that you have work to do in other fields than the purely physical.

So you want to get back together with your ex, and as you probably have seen on the Internet, lots of people suggest that you start by texting an exIn fact I’d suggest that you start by beginning to think hard about why you want to get back with somebody.

It’s very natural, if you broke up, to think that you might miss the company and sense of security or happiness that the relationship gave you – but the undeniable truth is that you broke up for very good reason, and perhaps that’s what you need to look right now.

Because in the clues to your breakup lies a clue to whether or not you will be able to change your behavior in way that makes it acceptable to your ex-partner.

And here’s something really important – the fact that you don’t want to change who you are if the way in which you would have to change to be acceptable to your ex-partner is truly different to the man or woman you currently are. You see what I’m getting at?

The question is, what price you going to pay in terms of giving up your identity for the sake of getting back together with your ex partner?

And while it’s all very well talking about how you can improve your sexual performance, as we all know, relationships based on a lot more than sex.

Or at least, your relationship should be based on more than sex if you are to stand any chance of getting back together. What you need to remember is that if the reason you want to get back together with your ex-partner is because you’re frightened of being alone, or it’s simply a reaction to separation, then you have no real basis for getting back together.

Obviously the same is true of you getting back together simply to save face in front of friends or family.

And you also need to think really carefully about what went on at the end of the relationship. You have to change something before you get back together – and I’ve already mentioned in this context your sexual performance; even so, it’s much more likely to be about emotional reasons – frankly, if you’re a man you may well be showing emotional inadequacy for your ex-partner’s needs.

There’s another issue too – which is whether or not you spend your life meeting somebody else’s needs or you find a new partner who has a degree of self-reliance and fulfilment. Setting a boundary may well be necessary.

Not An Easy Decision

Apart from any of that, the fact that you are showing a willingness to change means your partner  may see you as a person who is genuinely making an effort to re-establish connection; and if you admit the things you did wrong, assuming that you know, your care and investment in the relationship might be just enough to get back together.

And the truth is that the more you pursue her, the more desperate you will seem, and for women nothing is more of a turnoff than the needy man who can’t live without them.

Therefore, if you’re trying to get back together with your ex-partner by texting an ex on a regular basis, you’re making a big mistake. You’re trying to get yourself back into her (or his) life far too soon, in too forceful a way.

If it’s possible, wait for her to come to you. If you try to move things too fast, she’s likely to pull away again.

So the good advice here is focus on yourself for a while, focus on your friends, and absorb yourself in what pleasures and delights you. You never know, you might surprisingly find that you’re not missing so much after all.

Man and woman having sex

Are you performing in bed?

great sex between man and woman

Great sex is definitely a glue in any relationship between a man and a woman

Do the right thing, by the way! That means don’t interrupt her if she’s forming another relationship. Keep your distance and wait your time and if you really care for her, be mature enough to put aside your jealousy and resentment, your sadness and anger. Perhaps easier said than done, but it’s the mark of an emotionally mature man.

When you do get a relationship back, or when you start the process, let’s say at a first meeting, you need to take things slowly. You need to reach out in a low-pressure way because her level of trust will not be high.

Definitely don’t start off by putting emotional pressure on with words like “we need to get back together”.

The best way to approach this whole thing is to be like a friend who cares about her. On the basis of your friendship you might be able to rebuild a relationship, so make your first meeting somewhere low-pressure, somewhere NOT emotionally charged the two of you, and somewhere that doesn’t raise all kinds of emotive issues.

Clever things like going to the restaurant where you first met are a seriously bad idea. She is likely to become less trusting of you if you pull a stunt like that.

You see what’s going on here: you have to keep things casual, you have to keep the pressure low, and you aim to simply re-establish a connection and some degree of intimacy on the basis of friendship with no other expectations – particularly sexual ones.

You could introduce the subject of your breakup by saying something like “I’ve been thinking about the breakup, and I’ve realized how much of a part I had to play in it. I’d like to talk to you about it. Is that OK?”

Finally if you do start the relationship up again, you really are going to have to take responsibility for everything bad that was your fault, and to be truthful your ex is going to have to take responsibility for whatever was his or her fault.

Take your responsibility as best you may, open up to the faults that you manifested in the relationship, and change for the future. You have to do things differently in the future, or what broke you apart in the first place will simply break you apart again.

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Delayed Ejaculation No More!

A problem faced by many men is much less well-known than premature ejaculation – the problem of delayed ejaculation, when a man can’t ejaculate in a timely fashion during sexual intercourse.

This may sound perverse, because we are all accustomed to experiencing reports in the media of premature ejaculation cures for men who can’t control themselves (or their excitement) during intercourse.

The reality of the matter is, however, that just as many men have difficulty ejaculating at all as have controlling their ejaculation!

The problem stems from the fact that many men are “cut off” from their feelings, and therefore don’t experience the correct degree of sexual arousal during intercourse – the correct arousal, in this case at least, being the level of arousal necessary to take them to the point of ejaculation.

Now having said that, it’s not an uncommon problem, and it can be cured – but it does require the man who is experiencing it to face up to some tricky issues – horror of horrors, for most men, facing up to the emotions that might be causing the problem!

Nonetheless, with a degree of determination and some sympathetic help by his partner, most men who have this problem will find that they are restored to full ejaculatory capacity quite quickly.

The cause of the problem is unknown – at least, in the generic sense. What we know at a specific level is that emotional experiences such as anger towards the partner, fear during sexual intercourse, or other difficulties such as guilt and shame around sex are certainly implicated in the origin of the problem.

And one of the things that I’ve come across many times is that men who feel they have difficulty ejaculating in a timely way will want to avoid exploring their feelings; this is quite understandable, because for a man there is something slightly humiliating about being a sexual “failure” – at least in the man’s own terms.

So a more compassionate approach to this issue is certainly required – a fact reflected perhaps in the way that delayed ejaculation is no longer called retarded ejaculation or other derogatory terms that have been used in the past.

Solutions for slow ejaculation

Many men with this difficulty will approach the problem from a practical point of view, asking their pharmacist or doctor if they can have some drug that would resolve the day difficulty they’re facing – needless to say, there is no drug, and any treatment program usually does involve some degree of psychological analysis or exploration.

Now if you’re a man for whom the thought of counselling or therapy is terrifying, then you will be reassured to know that this doesn’t have to be profound or prolonged therapy – it simply has to be effective enough to just loosen the inhibition over ejaculation, and beyond that, any exploration of relationship issues is entirely down to the couple in question.

Often men with delayed ejaculation seem to be a little bit inhibited in the expression of their feelings. They have too strong a control of orgasm, or perhaps even in the expression of their masculinity – there are ways to deal with that, that go beyond the common or garden workshop setting, and allow men to find ways to step more powerfully into their masculinity.

One route you might consider if you’re in this situation is the Tantric route to self-exploration and growth and development – while Tantra is thought of something esoteric from the East, that perhaps we Westerners would do well to avoid, it’s actually very practical and wonderful system of exploring the essence of your sexuality in a non-threatening and self esteem enhancing way.

Perhaps is becoming clear to you now that there are many different routes to the treatment of delayed ejaculatory, not all of them have to involve deep exploration of the psyche – something that many men find frightening, as I’ve already observed stop the truth of the matter is that in general the old-fashioned treatment methods such as desensitisation were inadequate because they weren’t backed up any kind of psychological analysis.

With a little bit of exploration of the psyche, and a little bit of exploration of emotional feelings, is possible for men and women to explore the practical, sexual side of their relationship in a way that opens out inhibited concepts and feelings for discussion, thereby loosening the man’s hold or “restraint” over his ejaculatory tendency.

In other words, desensitization is a good approach to the problem, and indeed this formed the first classic approach to treatment: the man would be encouraged to gradually develop greater intimacy with his partner, if only on a physical level, and finally to effect a maneuvre called the “bridging maneuvre” in which he could ejaculate inside his partner.

Now times have moved on, and such forthright and perhaps forceful treatment methods are no longer appreciated by either therapists or clients.

 

 

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Visualization & Self hypnosis

Binaural beats

Binaural beats, or binaural tones, are auditory processing artifacts, or apparent sounds, caused by specific physical stimuli. This effect was discovered in 1839 by Heinrich Wilhelm Dove and earned greater public awareness in the late 20th century based on claims coming from the alternative medicine community that binaural beats could help induce relaxation, meditation, creativity and other desirable mental states. The effect on the brainwaves depends on the difference in frequencies of each tone: for example, if 300 Hz was played in one ear and 310 in the other, then the binaural beat would have a frequency of 10 Hz.

Now you may not have heard of the use of binaural beats before, but they’ve been around for quite some time on the Internet, and if you’re interested in using you can find many suppliers will be able to offer a variety of recordings suitable for a variety of issues, both psychological and physical. I’m never use them myself so I can’t recommend them, but it’s certainly true that they are offered for programs to cure premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. The way that I think they work is to put the somebody in touch with their deepest self, so that the psychological issues which may or may not have been affecting their sexual performance become less significance and don’t exert as much influence over their psyche.

Another approach to curing premature and delayed ejaculation is self hypnosis.

You’ll see from the reference I’ve just put in that link that if you go there the doctor in question dismisses this as an opportunity to cure premature ejaculation out of hand – I wouldn’t be so cavalier. I think that where self hypnosis can be useful is in relaxing an individual, and reducing the level of anxiety that they experience around sexual issues.

Certainly you will find many suppliers offering tapes and MP3 recordings designed to cure premature ejaculation: for example, this supplier offers the following information. hypnosisappstore.com:

Anxiety plays a big role in sexual problems and can sometimes produce an almost phobic response of fear. This application is designed to help you to begin to reprogram your mind to feel comfortable, confident, competent and in control during sexual activity. The aim is for you to learn how to relax, breathe naturally and feel really good about those situations.

Features: A powerful hypnosis audio session for controlling premature ejaculation.

  • Additional free hypnosis sessions designed to enhance and reinforce the main session:
  • 1. Relax Completely
  • 2. Supercharge Your Self Esteem & Self Confidence
  • 3. Total Relaxation in 10 minutes
  • Hypnosis sessions incorporate dual vocal delivery & unique powerful audio technology designed to help the listener access a deep hypnotic, meditation state much more quickly and easily than would usually be possible.
  • A choice of beautiful, relaxing video animations to run with the audio programs.
  • Video interviews to help you understand and feel comfortable with the process and to simulate as closely as possible what it’s like to see Darren [the hypnotherapist] in person.
  • Additional tips for controlling premature ejaculation.

Now, whether or not you believe in these approaches will determine whether or not you respond to my next suggestion with positive or negative attitude – and that is that you could use visualisation and manifestation techniques to control your premature ejaculation or end your delayed ejaculation.

Now I know this may seem like a radical idea, but I want you to consider it seriously because there’s a lot to be said for it.

Visualization is a long established process that people can use to control the mind programs that make you come too quickly (imagine your brain as a computer, and the way it operates is the software program).

Programs which determine your sexual behaviour can be impacted by visualization, which can actually amend these programs and get them operating differently & more effectively, in line with your expectations and desires.

If you want to enjoy better sexual relationships, with complete sexual pleasure for the woman as well as for yourself, then one way to do it is to ensure that you ejaculate in a timely fashion and you are able to make love for long enough to please your woman.

Often men fail to do this because they’re actually anxious or fearful or angry in some way about intimacy or because they have a fear of connection with a woman during lovemaking…

The number of psychological processes that might be going on here is almost infinite! Therefore, the opportunity to use some kind of mental programming technique like visualization shouldn’t be overlooked (nor should hypnosis – check it out here.)

The truth of the matter is that visualization is an extremely effective way of reprogramming your subconscious mind to behave in different fashion.

I believe that it can slow down the average ejaculation of a man with premature ejaculation  from 30 seconds to around five minutes.

And you can do this for yourself simply by visualizing while you are in a relaxed state of mind the image that you want to sum up your ability as a man to make love to your partner.

Now, if you’re looking for are reasonable information source on visualization and how you can use it to bring about an outcome that is different to the current outcome of your lovemaking, I highly recommend this information because it offers you all the information you could possibly require about manifestation and visualization techniques, and it also provides you with explicit instructions on how to visualize, as well as how to satisfy the requirements of the process so that it will work for you.

In brief, you need to have absolute clarity about what you’re trying to achieve, you need to have absolute determination to achieve it, you need to expect as well as hope that it will be manifested for you, and you need to take some kind of action to achieve your objective. In general the action step is the one that holds people back, because they simply don’t understand how essential it is.

If you are going to use visualization and manifestation technique to control sexual dysfunction, then what you need to do is take action of some kind, and that will be in this case not only buying the MP3 recording that you are going to use to reprogram your mind, but also exploring other aspects of your psyche which are deficient around sexuality.

For example, you might need to explore how to make yourself more relaxed and comfortable in the presence of a woman, if you have intimacy issues. The good news, however, is that you can use the same method to actually explore everything – it’s not like you’re going to have to see a therapist to deal with one part of the problem!

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How To Delay Ejaculation – Made Easy!

Here are the simplest ways in which you can learn how to delay your ejaculation almost immediately.

1) Engage in long-lasting foreplay. This will accustom you to being highly sexually aroused without ejaculating. The more time you spend pleasuring your partner before you enter her, the more satisfied she will be, and the more relaxed you will be, even if you’re highly sexually aroused.

2) Remain relaxed during sexual activity. This is extremely important when you’re learning how to delay your ejaculation, because orgasm is basically the release of bodily tension, and the more tense you are in your body, the more your body will seek to release that tension through premature ejaculation.

3) Use deep breathing to remain relaxed. Point 2 above is essential in learning to delay ejaculation. But you may be wondering exactly how you can remain physically relaxed when you’re in a sexually arousing situation. The answer is to use deep, slow breathing: make your breathing conscious, and be aware of how rapidly or slowly you are breathing. Consciously take deep breaths and release them slowly through your mouth; as you do so, feel your body relax.

4) Slow down the rate of increase in your sexual arousal by taking pauses during foreplay and intercourse. You’ll feel inclined to do the opposite — in other words, to charge ahead to ejaculation and orgasm. But you can consciously choose to take breaks which will allow your arousal to decline slightly, and therefore when you come back to sex, allow you to continue stimulating your partner (or receiving stimulation) for longer, without early ejaculation. (Note that these are “automatic techniques” for which you don’t even need to have any deeper, technical knowledge of how to avoid premature ejaculation.)

5) When you enter your partner be aware of how aroused you are at every stage of the sexual act, right up to the moment of orgasm. To know how to delay your ejaculation you have to know how aroused you are: and the only way to know how aroused you are is to actually be aware of what your body is telling you. And the point of this? Well, if you are aware of how aroused you are, you will know when to take a break during sexual activity – this is a way to let your arousal to drop so that you can last longer in bed when you resume sexual intercourse.

6) Overcoming premature ejaculation requires a clear intention on your part. It’s not enough to decide to delay your ejaculation before you get into bed. Your resolution to last longer, and to overcome premature ejaculation, must remain intact whilst you’re actually in a sexual situation with your partner, even while you are making love to her. Indeed, in delaying ejaculation, there is probably very little more important than your focused intention to be a better lover.

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Delaying Your Ejaculation Is Essential To Be A Good Lover

Ways To Delay Ejaculation

You may have noticed tension in your body during sex, especially pelvic tension. This comes from automatic, almost unnoticed behaviors during sex: holding your breath, tightening your muscles, and supporting your weight in the man on top sexual position. Muscle tension always increases the risk of premature ejaculation, so it’s important to know how to delay the build up of this tension.

The reason muscle tension is your enemy in the battle against premature ejaculation is that orgasm is a build up and release of tension, so the lower your muscle tension during lovemaking, the longer you can delay ejaculating. Of course, while being relaxed helps you last longer, the stronger the build up and release of tension when you ejaculate, the better your orgasm will feel. So immediately you have a paradox – how to stay relaxed and enjoy powerful orgasms?

Well, by being able to control how tension develops. If you actively decreasing tension in your pelvic and abdominal areas outside of the bedroom, you start making love with less tension, which will give you longer to let it build up (longer before you ejaculate, that is). So give and receive full body massages: when your partner massages you, allow your anxiety to drop and bodily tension to release; thi skind of massage is not about genital stimulation; it’s about being touched in a healing way. Men who enjoy their bodies, men who like being touched, often have lower anxiety levels.

Another important technique for learning how to delay orgasm is doing Kegel exercises. This is a great way to strengthen your pelvic region and PC or pubococcygeus muscles.

Delaying Ejaculation During Lovemaking: The Start-Stop Method

The start-stop method works well for many men who want to last longer during sex. It will allow you to learn delay techniques that give you ample time to pleasure your partner before you enjoy your own orgasm. The simplest way to practice the start-stop method is to enjoy extended masturbation. 

Masturbate until you are ready to have an orgasm and then stop stimulation. Train yourself to find when your point of no return (the moment of  ejaculatory inevitability) happens – that’s the few moments where you know your orgasm is about to start, when you really are ready to ejaculate – and then, rather than ejaculating, stop masturbating, and allow the feeling of impending orgasm to subside.

What you’re doing is training your mind and body to accommodate higher states of arousal without relexing into orgasm – you’re extending the so-called plateau phase of your sexual response cycle so there’s more time between the excitement and orgasm phase.

To complete the process of discovering how to delay ejaculation, start by masturbation with the start-stop method as described above, then move on to masturbation by your partner, oral sex, and finally intercourse.

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