How To Delay Ejaculation – Made Easy!

Here are the simplest ways in which you can learn how to delay your ejaculation almost immediately.

1) Engage in long-lasting foreplay. This will accustom you to being highly sexually aroused without ejaculating. The more time you spend pleasuring your partner before you enter her, the more satisfied she will be, and the more relaxed you will be, even if you’re highly sexually aroused.

2) Remain relaxed during sexual activity. This is extremely important when you’re learning how to delay your ejaculation, because orgasm is basically the release of bodily tension, and the more tense you are in your body, the more your body will seek to release that tension through premature ejaculation.

3) Use deep breathing to remain relaxed. Point 2 above is essential in learning to delay ejaculation. But you may be wondering exactly how you can remain physically relaxed when you’re in a sexually arousing situation. The answer is to use deep, slow breathing: make your breathing conscious, and be aware of how rapidly or slowly you are breathing. Consciously take deep breaths and release them slowly through your mouth; as you do so, feel your body relax.

4) Slow down the rate of increase in your sexual arousal by taking pauses during foreplay and intercourse. You’ll feel inclined to do the opposite — in other words, to charge ahead to ejaculation and orgasm. But you can consciously choose to take breaks which will allow your arousal to decline slightly, and therefore when you come back to sex, allow you to continue stimulating your partner (or receiving stimulation) for longer, without early ejaculation. (Note that these are “automatic techniques” for which you don’t even need to have any deeper, technical knowledge of how to avoid premature ejaculation.)

5) When you enter your partner be aware of how aroused you are at every stage of the sexual act, right up to the moment of orgasm. To know how to delay your ejaculation you have to know how aroused you are: and the only way to know how aroused you are is to actually be aware of what your body is telling you. And the point of this? Well, if you are aware of how aroused you are, you will know when to take a break during sexual activity – this is a way to let your arousal to drop so that you can last longer in bed when you resume sexual intercourse.

6) Overcoming premature ejaculation requires a clear intention on your part. It’s not enough to decide to delay your ejaculation before you get into bed. Your resolution to last longer, and to overcome premature ejaculation, must remain intact whilst you’re actually in a sexual situation with your partner, even while you are making love to her. Indeed, in delaying ejaculation, there is probably very little more important than your focused intention to be a better lover.

Delaying Your Ejaculation Is Essential To Be A Good Lover

Ways To Delay Ejaculation

You may have noticed tension in your body during sex, especially pelvic tension. This comes from automatic, almost unnoticed behaviors during sex: holding your breath, tightening your muscles, and supporting your weight in the man on top sexual position. Muscle tension always increases the risk of premature ejaculation, so it’s important to know how to delay the build up of this tension.

The reason muscle tension is your enemy in the battle against premature ejaculation is that orgasm is a build up and release of tension, so the lower your muscle tension during lovemaking, the longer you can delay ejaculating. Of course, while being relaxed helps you last longer, the stronger the build up and release of tension when you ejaculate, the better your orgasm will feel. So immediately you have a paradox – how to stay relaxed and enjoy powerful orgasms?

Well, by being able to control how tension develops. If you actively decreasing tension in your pelvic and abdominal areas outside of the bedroom, you start making love with less tension, which will give you longer to let it build up (longer before you ejaculate, that is). So give and receive full body massages: when your partner massages you, allow your anxiety to drop and bodily tension to release; thi skind of massage is not about genital stimulation; it’s about being touched in a healing way. Men who enjoy their bodies, men who like being touched, often have lower anxiety levels.

Another important technique for learning how to delay orgasm is doing Kegel exercises. This is a great way to strengthen your pelvic region and PC or pubococcygeus muscles.

Delaying Ejaculation During Lovemaking: The Start-Stop Method

The start-stop method works well for many men who want to last longer during sex. It will allow you to learn delay techniques that give you ample time to pleasure your partner before you enjoy your own orgasm. The simplest way to practice the start-stop method is to enjoy extended masturbation.

Masturbate until you are ready to have an orgasm and then stop stimulation. Train yourself to find when your point of no return (the moment of ejaculatory inevitability) happens - that’s the few moments where you know your orgasm is about to start, when you really are ready to ejaculate – and then, rather than ejaculating, stop masturbating, and allow the feeling of impending orgasm to subside.

What you’re doing is training your mind and body to accommodate higher states of arousal without relexing into orgasm – you’re extending the so-called plateau phase of your sexual response cycle so there’s more time between the excitement and orgasm phase.

To complete the process of discovering how to delay ejaculation, start by masturbation with the start-stop method as described above, then move on to masturbation by your partner, oral sex, and finally intercourse.